10 Easy Ways to Deal with Anger
Every person gets mad all the time and there is no way that we can avoid it. Someone out there is bound to hurt our feelings and are about to make us cry. Eventually we will be fuming mad at this time but there are ways to combat anger in a more subtle and humane manner.
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If you are angry, say nothing
If you are mad, you will most likely say things that are hurtful and displeasing. People may respond in a kind way but it will most likely generate negative anger. So just calm down, keep silent and let the feeling of anger leave you before you try to hurt others’ emotions as well. As Thomas Jefferson said, “If you are angry, count to TEN before you speak. If very angry, count to 100.”
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Ignore those who want to make you mad
Unfortunately, there are people out there who find refuge in making you mad. So just ignore it. Time will come that they will lose interest in provoking you.
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Use reason to stop anger
Always talk to yourself. Tell yourself that being angry and letting it get the best of you will only make things worse. Allow your inner self to combat this emotion.
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Look kindly upon others
Be angry and express yourself but make others feel that you are ready to forgive and accept what happened.
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Value peace more than anger
Remember that you may always have the right to get angry but always keep in mind that if you get mad, you lose peace of mind.
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Always try to understand
Always keep an open minded approach in dealing with things. Study every scenario. Do not put the blame on any one. Try to understand every situation.
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Breathe deeply
Breathing deeply will help you calm down and think things through.
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Meditate
Practice meditation to bring inner peace and allow you to talk to yourself.
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Do not hold on to past grudges
Let the past remain in the past. Let it go and build a better life with a positive outlook in the future. This may be the most difficult thing to do but it should produce a wonderful result. If you are in an argument, do not bring up the past grudges for it will slowly kill your relationship.
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Smile
Defuse any negative emotions with a simple smile. Let others feel that you are alright.
January 21st, 2008 at 10:02 pm
My husband keeps calling me a lesbian.I just say so what, I proud of it. I can’t wait till this marriage comes to an end!
January 21st, 2008 at 10:43 pm
Dear writer of this article,
Thank you for the great advice. I always try to keep situations peaceful. However sometimes it is difficult to do with my husband, especially because I want out of this marriage. I only think of one person, and that is my secret crush. I would hate to make this person angry. That would be the last thing I would want to do. I wish my secret crush to be happy, peaceful and to be surrounded by positive and great people.