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A NUMBER of couples in our society today focused more on planning their wedding day than their marriage in general.
Many couples who are too excited to marry the person of their dreams even went to the extend skipping the required pre-marriage counseling seminar just to speed up the process of their wedding.
Skipping a pre-marriage seminar is really a decision of couples that cannot be interfered by anyone.
But with the high divorce rate in our society I guess it would just appropriate that set aside time for a pre-marriage seminar as precaution for any marriage disaster and to ensure lasting relationship between husband and wife.
Of course couples might argue that it just fine to skip pre-wedding marriage seminar since they can still have it after their marriage if their relationship is shaky.
Their point is valid, but I it is better that a pre-marriage seminar is held first to avoid any shaky relationship in the future; Why wait for the future when you can preempt any marriage disaster by simply attending a pre-marriage seminar.
To all couples out there who are not convince why pre-marriage seminar is a must in every wedding here 6 valid reasons for you.

Pre marriage counseling helps avoid conflicts among couples worldwide.

1. Better communication among couples
 

It had been proven through the years that one of the key elements of a successful marriage is better communication between couples.
Understanding the importance of talk in marriages and the underlying reasons why we need to be a good listener in marriage will also be discussed during pre-marriage seminar that is why the process is so important in wedding.
Couples need to understand that communication is such an integral part of marriage that it needs to be given preferential attention since their survival as husband and wife depend on this aspect.
Aside from discussing their concerns couples must also understand that they need to be a good listener to each other by understanding whatever shortcomings any of them encounters in their marriages.
 

2.Understanding the role of husband and wife

Another importance of a pre-marriage counseling is that it educate the husband and wife about the roles they will play in marriage.
It would be nice that before plunging into marriage a man and his would be wife will be given time to discuss the things they need to do to survive in marriage.
A man and his wife must learn first hand the expectations they had for each other to avoid surprises and possible conflict in marriage.

3. Ways to mediate conflict

Of course no couple would wish they would have conflict in their marriage right?
But it would be great if couples have an idea on how to resolve possible conflicts so that when problem arise in marriage it can be immediately given solution to prevent it from escalating into a much bigger concern.
Pre-marriage counseling provide this opportunity to couples to learn how to deal with marriage conflict.

4. Understanding difference in religion

Some couples might argue that religion is not a problem in marriage since their love for each other cannot be affected by their different religion.
Love can indeed conquers all including religion; but it is equally important that couples discuss their varying religion before the wedding ceremony so that they will learn the ways on how to properly use their religion in marriage and caring for their future children.
Pre-marriage counseling is the perfect venue to discuss religion issues in marriage before any actual wedding ceremony.

5. Knowing and dealing with family issues
 

A pre-marriage counseling gives opportunity to couples to learn whatever problems each of them experience or faces from their respective families.
If a man experience an unloving family it would be great that he discuss it first to his incoming wife so that they can plan the things they need to do to ensure they will have a loving and happy family together.
If this issues will not be given resolution before a wedding takes place there is a big possibility that it would result in conflict and heated discussion among couples.
So before any conflict will arise couples must discuss their lives to each other thoroughly and to some drastic steps to resolve it the soonest possible time.

6. Chart marital goals

Another significance of having a pre-marriage counseling is the chance for the incoming couples to list down all the goals they want to achieve in their marriage.
Having a list of marriage goals is an integral element in the success of marriage, as couples will have a guide and inspiration for them to work together for the sake of their relationship and future children.
Aside from being a driving force for success, couples could also use their marriage goals to strengthen further their love for each other to make their marriage long lasting.