Dependent personality disorder
July 3rd, 2008
I got to talk to one of my buddies back in grade school. He told me that he was having problems with his cousin who was acting pretty messed up. He said that after the divorce, he started acting as if he could not do anything on his own. He would even want others to cook rice for him because he said that he might screw it up.
The moment he said that thing about the divorce, I immediately thought that it has got to be a mental disorder. I talked to my therapist and indeed it was. My therapist said that his cousin may be experiencing Dependent Personality Disorder. He said that a patient that is having this problem allows other to assume the responsibility for his life because of the lack of self confidence or the lack of ability to function independently. This makes their own needs secondary to the needs of others. They often view themselves poorly and only as extensions of others.
Here are the characteristics of those who are suffering from Dependent personality disorder:
1. encouraging or allowing others to make most of one’s important life decisions;
2. subordination of one’s own needs to those of others on whom one is dependent, and undue compliance with their wishes;
3. unwillingness to make even reasonable demands on the people one depends on;
4. feeling uncomfortable or helpless when alone, because of exaggerated fears of inability to care for oneself;
5. preoccupation with fears of being abandoned by a person with whom one has a close relationship, and of being left to care for oneself;
6. limited capacity to make everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others.
I got to talk to one of my buddies back in grade school. He told me that he was having problems with his cousin who was acting pretty messed up. He said that after the divorce, he started acting as if he could not do anything on his own. He would even want others to cook rice for him because he said that he might screw it up.
The moment he said that thing about the divorce, I immediately thought that it has got to be a mental disorder. I talked to my therapist and indeed it was. My therapist said that his cousin may be experiencing Dependent Personality Disorder. He said that a patient that is having this problem allows other to assume the responsibility for his life because of the lack of self confidence or the lack of ability to function independently. This makes their own needs secondary to the needs of others. They often view themselves poorly and only as extensions of others.
Here are the characteristics of those who are suffering from Dependent personality disorder:
1. encouraging or allowing others to make most of one’s important life decisions;
2. subordination of one’s own needs to those of others on whom one is dependent, and undue compliance with their wishes;
3. unwillingness to make even reasonable demands on the people one depends on;
4. feeling uncomfortable or helpless when alone, because of exaggerated fears of inability to care for oneself;
5. preoccupation with fears of being abandoned by a person with whom one has a close relationship, and of being left to care for oneself;
6. limited capacity to make everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others.








