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Medical experts in a recent study said 100 percent acceptance of your own body is a good deterrent to eating disorders.
Based on the medical findings it was discovered that those people who have no regrets to their own body have less chances of acquiring an eating disorder.
Experts explained a great of number of people suffering from a particular eating disorder are not quite happy concerning their weight and appearance that drove them to spend health risk activities.
In order to escape chances of being inflicted with an eating disorder it would be good that you love your body regardless of how you look and much you weight.
Here are four practical tips to avoid chances of acquiring an eating disorder.
 

1. Do not engage in diet
 

If you truly love, your body do your best to avoid engaging in long diet since doing so would affect your eating habit and offer strong chances of getting inflicted with an eating disorder.
It would be best that instead of diet you eat nutritious foods to keep you energized and healthy.
Furthermore, always bear in mind that dieting might offer good looks and a sexy body but it also offer some health risk on your part.
 

2. Dwell on your talent instead of your body

To keep your mind off your appearance and body weight it would be best that you focus more on your talent instead of your body.
Instead of feeling sad if your body is not, the one you want it to be; just be grateful for the talents and skills that you possess.
Do your best to develop your talents instead of focussing more on your physical attribute since doing so will make you have a positive outlook at all times.
It would also be great if you can engage in sports instead of feeling down with your physical attribute.
 

3. Engage in a regular exercise
 

Doing some regular exercises could also keep you away from eating disorders.
Engaging in wholesome fun and entertainment will keep you body fit and healthy and will safeguard it from harm and any form of sickness including eating disorders.
Exercising in a regular basis is way to express to the whole world that you love and your body and that you will not do anything stupid to destroy it.
 

4. Positive outlook at all times
 

Having a positive outlook at all times is also a good deterrent to eating disorder.
Instead of dwelling on the negative, do your best to look at the bright side of things and always see the larger pictures on what is happening in your life.
If you think, your appearance is not the way you want it to be just conclude that everything happens with a reason in this planet.
No matter how you look just be proud of yourself and the talents and skills that you possess.
 

Following these four simple tips can do wonder to anyone who wishes to avoid to eating disorders in their lives.

Accepting your own body is a good way to deter chances of acquiring an eating disorder.

Something that impales you. Something that paralyzes you. Something that makes you stuck in the middle of nothingness. GRIEF…. I love how that sounds…. Something that I love to use in my write-ups…. Yet it is something that I never want to experience.

I have used the idea of grief in many fictions I wrote. Though they were just a creation, I can still feel the weight of it. I never experienced it, but since I have used that subject for a while, I guess I learn some stuff about it.

One of the things I learned is how to cope with it…..

1. Wallow – It’s not wrong to act childlike sometimes, crying yourself to sleep, not eating meals, locking yourself in your room. If it were your expressions of grief, then it’s okay. Some people say that it’s better to let your feelings out than to smile and let it inside for a long time. With this, the tendency is that you won’t be able to move on…..

2. Acceptance – Acceptance will be the only way to overcome grief. You lost something important…. You’re not going to take that back…. So just accept it. It can be hard to accept something you grieve about, but this is something that will make you stronger and better.

There are other things I learn about it, and I know someday, I would be the one experiencing it, not the characters I pulled from my mind. But hey, I am being optimistic, so when that comes, at least I have ideas on what to do.

There are things that are not easy to forget…. And not easy to forgive. I, for one have lots of things that I perceive as unforgivable. On the other hand, that doesn’t give me a peace of mind, as I feel that there is something that needs a closure. Well, I do know that no matter how grave the situation is, I need to be humble and learn to forgive, otherwise I won’t be able to move forward without issues and conflicts.

It’s hard of course, finally swallowing my pride and patching up things with the people I hate the most. But, I have to admit that I felt good when I finally solved my issues with my enemies. I finally forget…. I finally forgive.

Believe me, forgiveness seems to be impossible at first, but once you learn how to do it, everything will be smooth. And if you have issues that you want to close but don’t know how, well these are my steps that teach me how to grab the essence of forgiveness.

1. Stop being angry. Anger and even hatred are the things that trigger you to refuse to forgive. As long as this emotion lingers in you, things will never reach its conclusion.

2. Let it go. Once you start learning the essence of letting go, I guess you’ll be ready to forgive. Let go of that madness. Let go of those past mistakes. Let go of those conflicts. With this, you’ll finally get into the final stage….

3. Acceptance. This is the “last stage” that I’m talking about. Letting go and acceptance go hand-in-hand, for one can’t accept a thing without letting go of their past issues. Once you finally accepted that “it” happened, I guess you are ready to take the next step which is to forgive.

So this is it. I know it’s easier said than done, but once you have the willingness to do it, then everything will fall into place. So if you are considering to forgive someone you hate the most, I do hope that your issues will be solved. Good luck on that buddy.

I never thought the simple question “What if,” can give so much impact to me, piercing my heart with pain. This question always pops in my head when I did a mistake, or rather a regret that I may no longer be able to take it back. It even sucks more than committing a big mistake, for at least I’ll have the chance to make up for it. But when regret is made, I guess I can’t do anything but mop around and ask myself with “What if.”

For those who have lived their lives without any regrets, well, I salute you for having a wonderful existence. But for us who have some regrets, well, I do hope that one day, we find a great way to deal with them…. and maybe…. just maybe…. we will be able to take it back.

Because regret is one of the most poignant thing that can happen to one’s life, here are some ideas as to how it can be an emotional burden:

“Shoulda, woulda, coulda.” This is an RnB song by Beverly Knight. Though it doesn’t express much about regret, but its title has already hit its essence. In fact it is similar to the question “What if,” only that this phrase has a larger impact on people who have regrets. Just thinking about the possible answers to this piercing phrase already gives an idea on how painful regrets can be.

Wishing to turn back time. It’s impossible, and the only thing we can do is wish that we have the power to bring back the hands of time. In that way, at least we wouldn’t be committing something that we’d regret.

The difficulty of acceptance. Since we can no longer take back what we did and it’s hard to take it back, acceptance will be the last thing in our mind. As we wallow, question ourselves, and wish to do something that is clearly impossible, it seems that we can never accept the fact that “it” already happened. And well, you know how hard it would be like dying without learning how to accept…..

The best thing to avoid regrets is to think carefully before doing something, especially if it will create a larger impact on the people. That is just one of the things that I learned from having regrets. And if mistakes are already done, I guess the greatest way to deal with it is to admit that you made a mistake, accept it, and do something about it…. before it becomes something painful…. like regrets….

It was another day in their campus. She puts her thick eyeglasses, her clothes are the usual ones that she wears. It was a long, black denim skirt, and a tank top with a huge skull at the center, her body piercings brimming at the bright sunlight. Her lipstick is crimson black, and so is her eye shadow and mascara.

She stands out among the crowd, but in a negative way. While the others wear brightly-colored top and cute skirts, hers is pitch-black. For the students, Martha is the personification of a witch, a person who keeps a voodoo doll as her own version of Barbie and reads books of witchcraft as her bible. Of course, none of their judgments are true. Her appearance, though different from the others, is her way of expressing herself. Apparently, no one appreciates her sense of art.

Her eccentric nature triggers her detachment. No one wants to mingle with the so-called witch. None of them wants to share table with her during lunch. Group activities mean individual projects for her. Who would want to team up with this odd girl, anyway?

It’s not like Martha wants this. She is a kind-hearted person who just wants to be true o herself. If a person couldn’t accept her for what she is, then she’d better be aloof. But then again, she craves for companionship, that feeling that there will be someone for you. Nevertheless, her unspoken wish would never be heard…. for Martha is nothing but a dark witch in their class.

“I’m Anthony.” These were the first words you said to us. Simple as your words were, it didn’t affect me even just a bit, though your presence was as intimidating as your witty deduction of my friends’ characteristics. Because your appearance became stronger than before, my friends expressed their admiration with their jaw open. I, on the other hand, remained still and composed. I had to admit that I was stunned to know that your thinking ability was similar to mine, but that didn’t bother me; if there were another person who could take great actions even at the most complicated times, I didn’t care.

Nevertheless, there was something about you that intrigued me. Certainly, it wasn’t your impressive intellect. It was something else.

Moments later, you gained the trust of my friends. I was happy, though deep down, there was something that stopped my mind from being silent. It was your eyes that kept me from thinking, and when I looked at it, I suddenly found myself in the world of nothingness. It was as though your vacant expression brought me into this world, where I couldn’t even find questions to ask myself. It was just your eyes…. and this empty world that you’re showing me.

The moon shone brightly, and it was at this moment when I realized that I was drawn to your silence. You’re nothing but a person of mystery, Anthony, yet it struck me like a pistol. I never knew how, but my realization showed me that I was happy to be in this vacant world…. as long as it was you who showed it. And little by little, this empty place has turned into something meaningful. Could I be more drawn to your silent and mysterious persona?

I already knew the answer…. but it wasn’t something that I wanted to accept.

No. Not for someone like me, who has tragically lost the person most dear to me.

We never really had interaction Anthony, except those simple glances. It was short, yet it gave me a strong feeling that our emotions were the same. We’re both drawn to each other, like our worlds mirror one another. We should be really close, you know, but we couldn’t accept the simplicity of the situation…. that we held each other dearly. No, not for someone like you, who never experienced what risk felt like.

So I guess we could never be with each other, no matter how much we wish we could be together. Even though our feelings pull us like a strong magnet, we tried to push it away…. because you couldn’t afford to experience pain…. because I couldn’t afford to lose again.

How can I possibly smile when the person I valued the most left me? It was not like a break-up where I could still get back my girl from a sincere and passionate persuasion. This was loss – something that would not allow me to gain something as its exchange.

I saw my beloved sister died right before my eyes. I saw how a careless drunk driver took her breath and soullessly left her like she was just a damn cat. It was tragic, but she managed to smile as her last memory. I never understood it, and from then on, I never knew what happiness meant. I never even remember the last time I did that gesture on my face. My sister was everything to me. And now that she’s gone, I didn’t know how to move on….

It has been five years and every month, I visited her, with that memory that appeared like a nightmare to me. No matter how much I hated it, I knew I had to live, even when the only thing that I had was solitude. Nothing could bring her back from the grave; even the life of the damned man who took her away wouldn’t be able to do that. At the back of my mind, I knew accepting her death would be the answer for this. On the other hand, it seemed that for someone like me, who hasn’t stopped grieving, would find it the most difficult to do.

Being the kindest person I’ve ever known, my sister never wanted me to visit her with a pathetic look in my face. I knew it was the last thing she wanted to have. So, I, with only a small amount of hope left, struggled to smile before her grave. Besides, loss was quite different from throwing something away. And I was certain that I haven’t thrown her memories. With this, I would have a reason to do that cheerful gesture that I used to forget…. I guess that would be my start.

They say that acceptance would be the hardest thing for someone who has lost the most important thing in his life. It took me five years to cope with the death of my sister, finding acceptance as the toughest challenge in my life. And as I take another time to visit her grave, I finally manage to smile, finally understanding what her smile meant.