Surpassing an emotional and mental burden gives harmony and even serenity towards one’s well-being. It can even be regarded as fulfillment or victory. But what if the means of this so called victory is death? Does it really count as a fulfillment?

As moral issues flood your thoughts, the essence of suicide can be very devastating, not to the one who committed it, but those who are to absorb the impact of this action.

1. Grief. It is not just loneliness or misery. It is the pain of loss that hits an individual who is not prepared with death. It can be long-term, causing the person to be quite frustrated.

2. Questions. Or rather, questions that will no longer be answered. Sometimes, there aren’t any notes that are left to their significant others – messages that might hint to the cause of their problem, and even when that person is already gone, it might still give a way to fix it.

3. Depression. Yes, those who are grieving may develop depression because of their loved one’s suicide. Being clueless about the problems, the inability to help, the frustration of not saving the person may trigger an extreme negative emotion to the one who is left behind.

Something that impales you. Something that paralyzes you. Something that makes you stuck in the middle of nothingness. GRIEF…. I love how that sounds…. Something that I love to use in my write-ups…. Yet it is something that I never want to experience.

I have used the idea of grief in many fictions I wrote. Though they were just a creation, I can still feel the weight of it. I never experienced it, but since I have used that subject for a while, I guess I learn some stuff about it.

One of the things I learned is how to cope with it…..

1. Wallow – It’s not wrong to act childlike sometimes, crying yourself to sleep, not eating meals, locking yourself in your room. If it were your expressions of grief, then it’s okay. Some people say that it’s better to let your feelings out than to smile and let it inside for a long time. With this, the tendency is that you won’t be able to move on…..

2. Acceptance – Acceptance will be the only way to overcome grief. You lost something important…. You’re not going to take that back…. So just accept it. It can be hard to accept something you grieve about, but this is something that will make you stronger and better.

There are other things I learn about it, and I know someday, I would be the one experiencing it, not the characters I pulled from my mind. But hey, I am being optimistic, so when that comes, at least I have ideas on what to do.