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According to a latest study, the positive self-statements in self-help books do not always work at all time in boosting the morale of a person.
The positive self-statements suggested in these books, such as "I am a lovable person" or "I will succeed," are designed to lift a person’s low self-esteem and push them into positive action. According to a recent study in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, however, these statements can actually have the opposite effect.
Psychologists Joanne V. Wood and John W. Lee from the University of Waterloo, and W.Q. Elaine Perunovic from the University of New Brunswick, explained that individuals with low self-esteem actually felt worse about themselves after repeating positive self-statements.
To get the data, the researchers asked participants with low self-esteem and high self-esteem to repeat the self-help book phrase "I am a lovable person."
The psychologists then measured the participants’ moods and their momentary feelings about themselves.
 As it turned out, the individuals with low self-esteem felt worse after repeating the positive self-statement compared to another low self-esteem group who did not repeat the self-statement. The individuals with high self-esteem felt better after repeating the positive self-statement but only slightly.

Study shows positive self-statements do not work at all times.

The researchers revealed, in a follow-up study, the psychologists allowed the participants to list negative self-thoughts along with positive self-thoughts.
They found that, paradoxically, low self-esteem participants’ moods fared better when they were allowed to have negative thoughts than when they were asked to focus exclusively on affirmative thoughts.
The psychologists suggested that, like overly positive praise, unreasonably positive self-statements, such as "I accept myself completely," can provoke contradictory thoughts in individuals with low self-esteem. Such negative thoughts can overwhelm the positive thoughts.
In addition, if people are instructed to focus exclusively on positive thoughts, they may find negative thoughts to be especially discouraging.
Moreover, the researchers concluded, "Repeating positive self-statements may benefit certain people [such as individuals with high self-esteem] but backfire for the very people who need them the most.

For how long have been single?
If you have been single for a long time already and had not find any luck in finding someone to love maybe you need some help.
Actually, there is nothing wrong in being single as long as you are happy with it, but having relationship with someone is also a pleasant experience right?
Having a special, someone who will care and love you is indeed special.
Of course there are negative effects of having relationships but let us not deal with it and just focus on finding ways to help singles all over the globe find their well deserved love from someone.
Here are few guides to all singles who wish to find special someone in their lives.

Being single is good but having relationship is much nicer right?

A. Know what you want in a relationship

All singles that are searching for someone to love must first do self-examination and ask themselves what qualities they are searching from a man or woman they want to have a relationship.
In writing, lists avoid negative words and statements so that luck will guide you in your search.
The negative statements could be “I want a man who will not humiliate me", instead of negative words you can say, “I want a man who will love and value me as a person".
When you are done with the list try, also joining dating activities and bonding with other people who knows your special someone could be among them.

B. Think positive

After knowing what you want, the second step if to have a positive outlook in life.
Believe that no matter what happens you still find your mate.
Avoid any negative thoughts in your mind so that you can have a positive result in your search for someone to love.

 
 C. Allow fate to take its course

When you already finished listing the qualities, you are looking from a man or woman it is now time to leave everything to fate and destiny.
If it is your fate to find someone to love then you will find it no matter how difficult the situation is.
Do not focus all your time and effort in searching for love since it could result to negative thoughts and emotions.
Always remember the saying "Stop looking for love since love will just find you".

D. Identify and let go your fear

One of the reasons why a number of men and women remain singles for quite some time is their fear to engage commitment or knowing other people.
To succeed in finding your special someone a person needs to know what is his or her fear in relationship that made him loveless for a long time.
Once you identify such fears, do something to resolve it so that love will come you freely.
Always bear in mind that fear is a negative emotion that needs to be detached from your self if you need to succeed in finding someone to love.
Having someone to love is such a wonderful experience so always allow your self to accept such a situation in your life so that love will your way.
It is always a good thing to be open to many possibilities so it is time to set aside all your fears and embrace the opportunity to love and be loved.

What are propoxyphene’s and how are they used?
Propoxyphene is a synthetic opiate and come into the group of drugs known as narcotic pain relievers. These are drugs that although can be used legally for the treatment of pain, they are also highly addictive.

The brand names for the most common propoxyphene drugs are darvon and darvocet. These drugs are available legally on prescription from medical practitioners and are used to treat patients who suffer from prolonged mild to moderate pain. They are often prescribed to people who suffer repeated migraine attacks. Because of their highly addictive nature, they are only available on prescription.

They are usually supplied in capsule form and are taken orally.

However, when they are being used in drug abuse cases, the capsules may be opened and the powder is often snorted (or tablets are crushed to a powder and snorted). The powder is sometimes mixed with water and injected into the drug abuser.

The effects of propoxyphene drugs.
The have a sedative effect and can be similar to the effects of methadone. The person taking the drug will not feel pain to any great degree due to the pain relieving properties of the drug. It can give the user feelings of relaxation and general well-being.

It is possible to carry out a drug test for propoxyphene drugs such as darvon and darvocet by using a drug testing kit.

Propoxyphene drugs such as darvon and darvocet can produce unpleasant and harmful side effects. These include slowing the heartbeat, causing breathing to become shallow and inducing feelings of nausea or actual vomiting. People have been reported to have choked on their vomit and died in some cases. These drugs can also cause hallucinations and blurred vision.

If you know of someone who is displaying these symptoms you should get them medical help immediately.

Propoxyphene drugs such as darvon and darvocet are particularly dangerous as they are prescription drugs, and therefore often thought of as safe. A person may legitimately have a prescription for these drugs without realizing how easily they may become addicted to them. The withdrawal symptoms are unpleasant, and patients should not suddenly stop taking the drug. Withdrawal should be undertaken with medical supervision.

Drug testing kits are useful for those taking long term pain relief, who may be concerned as to what their medication contains. Drug testing for propoxyphene drugs is both easy and reliable. Drug testing kits are available for purchase.

What is Nicotine and how is it used?

Nicotine is the stimulant found in tobacco products, and can be smoked in cigarettes and pipes, or chewed. It is highly addictive and can cause long term damage to the user, sometimes resulting in death. Why people begin to abuse Nicotine. Many people will begin to abuse nicotine in their early teens, and most will not stop until they are much older, if they are able to stop at all. Unfortunately this drug is often seen as a social drug, and the effects of the drug abuse are not thought about. Young teens will often begin to smoke and abuse nicotine due to peer pressure. The effects of the drug Nicotine Nicotine in tobacco produces a stimulation effect when a person first begins smoking it. This continues until the drug user it addicted. When addicted, the drug user will have to take in more nicotine to fend off the feelings of irritability and anxiety that can occur when the drug is stopped. Rather than taking the drug nicotine for its stimulating effect, the user now has to take it to feel ‘normal’. Nicotine now goes from being a drug that stimulates, to one that relaxes the user. How the drug Nicotine harms the user. Nicotine harms the drug user in a variety of ways. It can increase blood pressure, and in some cases, the heart rate can be raised up to 40 per cent. There is also the risks that taking nicotine in tobacco brings with it. The tar that tobacco produces releases chemicals known to cause cancer into the bloodstream. These increase the risk of the user contracting lung cancer, which in many cases can lead to death. Smokers who obtain nicotine in this way also run the increased risk of suffering from emphysema and other bronchial conditions. Nicotine can also harm people who do not abuse the drug. Smoking in a public place can cause second hand smoke to enter the bloodstream of others. This has been found to have a detrimental effect, with some developing the same health conditions as smokers. Fortunately there is an easy to administer drug test that can detect if someone is abusing nicotine. The Nicotine Screen-Cassette is easy to use and if used as part of a program designed to help a user give up nicotine, this can be helpful and beneficial to the user, by ensuring that regular checks can monitor their progress. A simple drug kit to test for nicotine can also be helpful for people who may be worried that they are suffering the consequences of second hand smoke from nicotine abusers close to them.

Drug addiction can destroy you. Losing a job can put you under so much pressure it feels like you are, in many ways, gasping for air. The route to go when you combine work and an addiction may seem obvious. However, in my experience nothing is obvious for a recovering drug addict. Working a job is just one step back into normal society. Itís time to take it, while handling pressure at the same time. Do what you want: Choose a career that is applicable to you. That, actually, isnít always obvious. ìWork isnít ever fun,î I hear you saying. But it can be fun if you put the footwork into it. Sometimes you may think a job has to be boring if it pays well. You can go to school for ten years, perhaps, and still not know the job you want. There are options, but you have to make the choice. By doing what you want your mind stays healthy. You will need support in these times, when looking for this dream job, and it may mean financial support. Get Support from Others: You may need financial support in the beginning. Drug addicts have more than a mental disease Ö often their pockets are empty from all the partying. If you cannot get help from friends or familyóand some of us canítóthen consider applying for things like food stamps. There are many services out there willing to support you. Friends and family are your best options. If you show how hard youíre working to get this ìdream jobî or just to stay clean, it would be hard to say no to loaning you some money in the short term. It may be hard to pay it back, but you should. Find Healthy Escapes: Work pressure will do things to your mind. Your pocket book may be empty, but there are many healthy escapes after quitting drugs. First, you quit using drugs. Then, the money will come. Think about it: You are no longer spending money on drugs. You wonít become rich overnight, but you will be spending less money. So with this money invest in some healthy escapes. You could get a gym membership, take a class at a community college, or pick up an art like painting. These escapes will keep your mind working; instead of sitting alone all day, you will be doing something. Ask Questions: You may have found a job. The next step is to start asking all kinds of questions at the job, and being as honest as possible yourself. You donít tell everyone youíre a drug addict, but you can tell people you meet you have trouble handling pressure. ìI hate working weekends,î you can tell your boss, ìso can I get a regular shift?î You can also ask for advice from friends and family. Coming in First With all this pressure coming to youóand it will comeóyou will have to remember you come first. Whatever happens, you will stay away from drug use. If the pressure at the job is too much, you may have to quit. You come in first; youíre the one trying to cope with all these things. Final Tips: Some bosses will be more than helpful when you ask them questions or for help. Itís smart to have a good relationship with your boss, but you usually keep your secrets to yourself. Do reward yourself after getting a job. It shows, again, you come in first. A Warning: What will you do with all the money you make? Pressure will rise again. You may even want to celebrate with drugs. Think your way through all these things. Play the story of going back to drugs to the end, where you are broke again and no one wants to help. By Jacob Malewitz

Battling College Depression by Jacob Malewitz 

College students are apt to depression, because they a great deal of pressures. They are still growing up. They see the world and want to take it. They experience failure. They fall to drugs, receive poor grades, try to work a job and a full class load, and often forget why they are doing it. So, in order to battle depression as a college student, you must be mindful of how tough it is. Then you need to see if you really have depression. First, you need to be honest about your depression. Often during depression you become an introvert: staying alone, reading, staying up late nights, not seeing anyone for days. If any of this sounds familiar, you are close to a depression side. Drug use is obvious, but doing things like becoming anti-social are less so. There is a fine line for you between enjoying yourself and losing yourself. To battle this you must try at least once a week to do something you normally wouldnít do. This could be a coffee at a nice spot downtown, a football party, or going out to see a movie with someone. To avoid isolation, which leads to depression in many, you must develop inner points of recognition. When you want to isolate, and are close to doing it, you need to seek help from someone, anyone who will listen. Professional help is almost always the best method. This makes being alone sound bad. Sometimes you have to fight through a depression by yourself. A college student can do much by themselves, some things more positive than others. If you love reading, a good book could cheer you up. If you like going for walks or jogging, it could have major effects on the lingering depression-decreasing it in many ways. The other side of this is to not fill yourself with alcohol. Just like marijuana and cocaine, there is a comedown off anything intoxicating you put in your body. Too much coffee will make you edgy; too much alcohol can kill you. It can also be a way of self-medicating. Alcohol in moderation is fine, but can be a dangerous alternative during a college studentís depression. Battling depression in college is not about the quick-fix. You must be mindful of who you truly are, what you really like doing, and how to make choices. Depression will still come. How you deal with it when it does come can make the difference between a degree and a therapistís bill. In the end, professional help is the best means for defeating college depression before it leads into some worse, like schizophrenia or drug addiction.

There are a lot of reasons why people engage in psychotherapy. The most common reason for this is extreme depression. While it is true that every person encounters different problems of their own, there are people who are having difficulties handling the problems that hound them. This just means that from time to time, there are people who would be needing professional help to get them back on the right track.

There are a couple of formats that psychotherapists follow and a patient has the right to choose which one may possibly be the best choice.

Individual Therapy is a type of therapy wherein there is a one-on-one conversation between the patient and the therapist. This allows the patient to have the full attention of the therapist but it does not allow the therapist to assess the patient based on his social or family relationships.

Family therapy is a type of therapy that involves the family as a group.

Group therapy involves around 3- 15 patients. It gives the patients the opportunity to receive support from people with particular issues. The good thing about this type of therapy is that it may be less expensive and it gives the patients the feeling of belongingness.

Couple’s Therapy is geared towards the betterment of married couples or those who are in a significant other type of relationship who wants to improve their relationship and functioning as a couple.

They gather for sex, drugs, and prostitution, all in the name of notorious companionship they call gang. The city of Chiang Mai, Thailand, has been flooded with 50 gangs composed of different members, some of which are all-girl gangs that like to have sex with many men and a group of infamous outcasts.

But these gangs are not just juvenile delinquents whose lives revolve around violence and drugs. A motherly-figure amongst them, Yai Aew has been the savior of these gangsters, who also have gained their trusts by launching programs good for their well-being, and of course, for them to help avoid drugs.

One of those that are helped by Yai Aew is the gang, Bin Laden, named after the known leader of terrorist group to imply their capacity to invoke grave danger. They started gaining their reputation when some of its members got involved in the murder of their enemies. Another notorious group known in the city is called the Samurais, who hold katanas while riding motorcycles.

With the help of Yai Aew through weekly counseling, sports fest, and leadership courses, these gangs are facing a new direction of their lives. Bin Laden is the top football team in a football tournament introduced by her and the Samurais has very minimal usage of drugs.

To read the complete story, go to:

http://www.atimes.com/atimes/Southeast_Asia/IJ23Ae02.html

Compassion is best expressed when someone helps others through an act of kindness. Mother Theresa is the personification of compassion. Her charitable works are known all over the world, saving thousands of lives from suffering. And if you are one of those who are touched by her compassion, and wants to be like her, then here are some ways to show an act of compassion to others:

* Share your blessings to others, especially those who are in need – If you just make take a second look at the street, you’d notice that there are plenty of people who are needing your help. These are the homeless, who find shelter in the middle of the cold street and get their food from the ones that we throw in the garbage can. You may not be able to provide them a proper shelter, but your old clothes and some of your food would be enough to help them.

* Animals need compassion too – Hey hey, compassion is not only given to human beings. Sometimes, these poor creatures are maltreated because they are merely animals, without realizing that they also need our care and concern. So, be compassionate to them as well. Even if they are not as intelligent as humans, they have feelings too.

* Join charitable institutions – There are numerous organizations which aim for the welfare of the people. With this, you can extend your compassion to more people, as there are those who are just like you.

As you express your compassion to people, you will be able to save souls who are in pain and can save their happiness by starting to show them what unconditional love means.