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According to medical experts, one of the best ways to cope up with tress in work is to forge a smooth relationship with your family and friends.
Based on a study, it was uncovered that a smooth relationship with our love ones reduces the negative effects of work-related stress on our health.
In a research conducted by Ann-Christine Andersson Arntén, a faculty of University of Gothenburg, Sweden she found out that a positive approach and successful stress-management techniques also help to reduce the negative effects of work-related stress.
However, Arntén said when there are stressful experiences both at work and in the relationship, the risk of burnout and poor health increases dramatically.
To get the data, the researcher examined 900 persons took part in her survey.
The survey consists of those who felt they had a good relationship experienced that they enjoyed better health than those who had a more problematic relationship, women with a poorly-functioning relationship experienced more anxiety, mental stress reactions and sleeping difficulties than women who had a good relationship, and men who had a mediocre relationship had a higher incidence of depression, anxiety, psychological and somatic stress reactions than men with worse or better relationships.
Arntén said although the study shows some gender differences, differences amongst individuals belonging to a gender were much greater than the difference between the genders.

Being happy in a relationship is a great way to cope up with work-related stress.

Arntén explained after having been exposed to stress, the body must recover and recharge itself.
She said if there is no opportunity to recover because the work does not allow for breaks and lunches, the body’s reserves are emptied, and poor health ensues.
She added the same principle applies when a person takes work home, frequently works overtime or has recurring quarrels and problems in his or her relationship.
According to her, the effects of the sometimes small but recurring stress situations of everyday life sneak up on a person, who at first does not even notice them.
Furthermore, Arntén revealed the person under stress adapts and tries to accommodate the demands and changes he or she face, until one day, there is such a great imbalance, that massive efforts are needed just to manage everyday life.
She said not taking time to recover can lead to impaired physical and mental health and cognitive and concentration problems, which reduce performance and problem-solving ability and this leads to consequences both at home and at work.

Drug addiction can destroy you. Losing a job can put you under so much pressure it feels like you are, in many ways, gasping for air. The route to go when you combine work and an addiction may seem obvious. However, in my experience nothing is obvious for a recovering drug addict. Working a job is just one step back into normal society. Itís time to take it, while handling pressure at the same time. Do what you want: Choose a career that is applicable to you. That, actually, isnít always obvious. ìWork isnít ever fun,î I hear you saying. But it can be fun if you put the footwork into it. Sometimes you may think a job has to be boring if it pays well. You can go to school for ten years, perhaps, and still not know the job you want. There are options, but you have to make the choice. By doing what you want your mind stays healthy. You will need support in these times, when looking for this dream job, and it may mean financial support. Get Support from Others: You may need financial support in the beginning. Drug addicts have more than a mental disease Ö often their pockets are empty from all the partying. If you cannot get help from friends or familyóand some of us canítóthen consider applying for things like food stamps. There are many services out there willing to support you. Friends and family are your best options. If you show how hard youíre working to get this ìdream jobî or just to stay clean, it would be hard to say no to loaning you some money in the short term. It may be hard to pay it back, but you should. Find Healthy Escapes: Work pressure will do things to your mind. Your pocket book may be empty, but there are many healthy escapes after quitting drugs. First, you quit using drugs. Then, the money will come. Think about it: You are no longer spending money on drugs. You wonít become rich overnight, but you will be spending less money. So with this money invest in some healthy escapes. You could get a gym membership, take a class at a community college, or pick up an art like painting. These escapes will keep your mind working; instead of sitting alone all day, you will be doing something. Ask Questions: You may have found a job. The next step is to start asking all kinds of questions at the job, and being as honest as possible yourself. You donít tell everyone youíre a drug addict, but you can tell people you meet you have trouble handling pressure. ìI hate working weekends,î you can tell your boss, ìso can I get a regular shift?î You can also ask for advice from friends and family. Coming in First With all this pressure coming to youóand it will comeóyou will have to remember you come first. Whatever happens, you will stay away from drug use. If the pressure at the job is too much, you may have to quit. You come in first; youíre the one trying to cope with all these things. Final Tips: Some bosses will be more than helpful when you ask them questions or for help. Itís smart to have a good relationship with your boss, but you usually keep your secrets to yourself. Do reward yourself after getting a job. It shows, again, you come in first. A Warning: What will you do with all the money you make? Pressure will rise again. You may even want to celebrate with drugs. Think your way through all these things. Play the story of going back to drugs to the end, where you are broke again and no one wants to help. By Jacob Malewitz

There are a lot of reasons why people engage in psychotherapy. The most common reason for this is extreme depression. While it is true that every person encounters different problems of their own, there are people who are having difficulties handling the problems that hound them. This just means that from time to time, there are people who would be needing professional help to get them back on the right track.

There are a couple of formats that psychotherapists follow and a patient has the right to choose which one may possibly be the best choice.

Individual Therapy is a type of therapy wherein there is a one-on-one conversation between the patient and the therapist. This allows the patient to have the full attention of the therapist but it does not allow the therapist to assess the patient based on his social or family relationships.

Family therapy is a type of therapy that involves the family as a group.

Group therapy involves around 3- 15 patients. It gives the patients the opportunity to receive support from people with particular issues. The good thing about this type of therapy is that it may be less expensive and it gives the patients the feeling of belongingness.

Couple’s Therapy is geared towards the betterment of married couples or those who are in a significant other type of relationship who wants to improve their relationship and functioning as a couple.

If feminism has a negative implication on you, then it’s time for you to abandon your thoughts about it; you’ll never know what it can bring to a relationship. And this idea is not just a hypothesis, for a study is made to support this.

Laurie Rudman and Julie Phelan who are both psychologists made a study about this matter. They made surveys for Rutgers undergraduates and other adults about feminism and relationships. The series of surveys they did shows that female and male feminists establishes stronger relationships.

Though it is not clear why feminists can create more harmonious relationships than those who are non-feminists, the psychologists believe that it can be because of their sense of individuality and support.

See the entire study about feminism by going to:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21364055/

Love, I suppose, is the most valuable issue in one’s life. Even before we are born, love has already been shown as our parents has established it as the foundation of their relationship. But then again, love is not just about marriage and relationship with the opposite sex. There is definitely more to love than that. In fact, love is classified into several types. And let me share three of them:

Agape Love – The very core of love. It is a divine emotion bestowed by the Almighty Father. Agape love is more commonly called as “religious love.” This is the devotion that we show to faith and religion, the worship and the loyalty that we express for our Creator.

Familial Love - How we value our family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances, colleagues, etc. is called Familial love. This is the foundation of our bonds with the people we are close with.

Eros Love – I guess this kind of love is one of the things that intrigues us. Eros is the god of love in Greek mythology, and his name is used to defy romantic love or love for the opposite sex. This is the very reason on how we get deeply attached to our partner.

There are still some things that we don’t know about love. It can be its kind, psychology, or definition. However, I don’t think vast knowledge of love is that crucial (though it helps us to understand what it means), as long as you feel the very essence of it.

If a genie would appear before me and ask for my three wishes, I wouldn’t hesitate to ask him to kill a certain man. Yes, I would definitely spend this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to kill the person I hate the most. Of course I know it’s wrong, it’s even considered a mortal sin. But I am having some exceptions, especially to this person that I can’t even afford to hear his name.

After spending a year of relationship with him, I couldn’t believe how I brought myself to letting him abuse me like that. And now that our relationship is over, the only thing I have for him is anger. This isn’t because of bitterness. Heck, I’d slice my own finger if it were the case. Despite his mistakes, that jerk didn’t even apologize. He tried to win me back by talking sweetly (like I’d fall for that), but didn’t even think of apologizing.

I am not in the state of forgiving him; my anger is just too overwhelming. I became depressed because of his abuse, so I can’t afford to forget what he did. So this is why I want his death. The memory of our relationship pierces me and I want him to feel the same poignant feeling he caused me.